Once again, you have asked a lady out for a first date. You are very familiar with this scenario. In fact, you feel like you are the expert on Lesbian First Dates. In other words, you are an expert at having "awful" first dates.
If you are ready to relinquish the title, "First Date Expert", consider these winning dating tips:
Relax - Pre-date jitters are normal. Prior to your date, do not drink to relax. Instead, do some relaxation exercises such as deep breathing. You want to be sharp and alert, not sloppy and obnoxious.
Dress Confidently & Appropriately - Wear clothes that you feel good in. Be sure to wear comfortable shoes. You do not want to be miserable or fidgety about what you are wearing. Complaining how uncomfortable you are is not a good conversational topic.
Venue & Activity - Your first date should be at a venue that is conducive for talking to each other. Do not go to one of your "regular hangouts" where you will see a bunch of your buddies. If you go to a movie, be sure to include dinner or drinks so you can visit, too. Remember the idea is to get to know each other. Do not orchestrate the evening so that it is filled with distractions and intrusive friends.
Conversation Topics - It's always a good idea to have several topics that you can easily talk about. Current events, trivia, popular music and movies, etc. Keep the conversation fun and not too heavy. Do not monopolize the conversation. Ask her questions, too!
Body Language - Smile when you greet your date. This shows her that you're happy to see her; and, you'll look friendly and fun. Sit-up straight and lean forward to show you are interested. Refrain from slouching and yawning. Plus, un-cross your arms; crossing them can make you seem bored or unapproachable.
Focus - Eye contact is most important. Look at her when she is talking. Put the cell phone away. Do not be checking for messages or changing your status on Facebook! And, do not be gawking at other women or looking over her shoulder! Pay attention to your date!
Genuine - Be honest and sincere. Do not try to be overly impressive. Being too arrogant will probably earn you a spot on the Reject List. She'll be more impressed by your modesty.
Good Listener - Really listen to what she is saying. Do not be waiting for her to stop talking so you can throw in your two cents. Do not hijack the conversation. Show interest.
Etiquette - Manners are always a must. Be courteous, punctual and polite. Here's a quick refresher on table manners: Keep your elbows off the table, napkin in your lap, do not talk with your mouth full and do not speed eat! She is watching you!
Follow-Up - You had fun, you flirted, you enjoyed each other's company and you'd absolutely like to see each other again. Don't keep that a secret. Offer a hug or a kiss. Let her know that you had a great time and you'd like to do it again. Do not play the waiting game, i.e. waiting three days until you call her. It is okay to text her that night. Before you go to bed tell her that you had a great time and you will call her in a day or two.
First dates are all about getting to know the person. Impress your date by being genuine, considerate, interested, and attentive. Remember, even though it may not turn into a long-term relationship, you may have found a good, long-term friend.
Gayl Newton is a Living OUT Mentor who works with gays and lesbians to help them embrace who they are and live with confidence. For more articles and coaching information go to http://www.confidentlyout.com.
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